It’s rare that I will blog about my life at home. Sure, I’ll write about what has been going on, but I won’t really go into detail about what its like to live in this house; some things are just better left unwritten.
This weekend just gone I spent in Luton, visiting my friend to celebrate his 18th birthday. It was fantastic to get away from Exeter, and it was brilliant to meet him and spend the weekend there. I had a great time.
Whilst sitting on the train travelling to Luton, with no WiFi to enjoy, I closed my eyes and thought quite deeply about what life is like here in Exeter, and the things I would change. I spent the majority of the journey being quite pensive actually. I thought a lot about my theroy of bubbles.
I see the world as a lot of bubbles that interconnect and join in various places. Bubbles are inside other bubbles. It’s probably quite confusing to picture unless you can see in my mind, but let me try to elaborate anyway. My bedroom is in a bubble. Outside of that bubble is my house, which is in another bubble. Outside of that bubble is Exeter. There are various other bubbles dotted around, but they are of no importance right now. Basically, when you go outside of one of these bubbles, various feelings in your heart and in your mind become more faint, and you notice them less. With each bubble you leave, more feelings become faint, but also others become stronger. As the train to Luton travelled further away from Exeter, I felt all of my stress, depression, anxiety and hatred slowly leave my body, and it felt fantastic. Almost as if the sun had come out – inside me. I didn’t feel anything bad. I knew that nothing was wrong, and everything that weighs on my shoulders when I am at home stayed back at home, waiting for a shoulder to sit on.
When I got to my friend’s house, I walked through the door of a very nice house. It was beautiful. Putting the size and excellence of the house aside, a whoosh of sweet-scented niceness consumed my entire body. It was one of the nicest feelings I have ever felt; walking into a house where the occupants don’t smoke. Not only that, though, but you can feel the atmosphere and environment of the house. When I walk into my house, I can feel the stress and unhappiness of the people inside it, because despite the smiles you might see in this household, nobody is really happy. It just seems to be an endless struggle through one problem to the next, with general dispute and arguments entwined with it all. I hate to say it, but that’s how it is. Walking into my friend’s house, I could feel the peacefulness and happiness. There was no ethereal presence screaming at you, begging you to be angry, and feeling that was such a huge climax that my smile spread from ear to ear.
After thoroughly enjoying my time away, I returned to Exeter. As the train approached, I felt the weight of everything returning to my shoulders. The gloom of being unemployed, still. Going back to a house that is filled with stress and arguments, and smokers. All the little niggly things that annoy me began to annoy me again, simply because being constantly stressed make my fuse so short that any small thing could make me snap. It was horrible. I got home and walked through the door, the house was quite dreary. The smell of cigarette smoke rushed through my body and there was no smile. My hatred returned.
I hate to say it, but I hate it here. I really, truly hate it. I can’t wait to get away. I can’t wait to be able to walk into my own house, where I have more than a room to myself. A place that I can call my own where the smell of smoke doesn’t linger on everything. I don’t think smokers truly understand how disgusting and horrible it is for non-smokers’ clothes to stink of smoke, and how irritating and shameful it is to have other people recognise it, and then ask if you smoke.
My Mum spends her working life cleaning and re-establishing houses, and therefore she has become a bit detached to what our house used to be like. It’s not messy or anything, but a couple of years ago she would feel uneasy if a cable was visible on the carpet, or there was a pile of something in a room, and now she doesn’t seem to mind as much because she can appreciate how tidy her house actually is. Though, I don’t have that appreciation and respect because I’m not in her position, and due to my upbringing with her, the house constantly appears untidy to me. That’s not a problem, it’s just something I felt like writing.
There are a lot of things that I could write about here about the various things that really get to me at home, but I’ll save it for another time. Problably when I move out (when ever the fuck that is), and have a clear mind as to what living here was really like. I just need to get out. I need to find a job and I need a house, before I either go insane or become stupidly stressed and depressed, and lose interest in the world.